Dating for Convenience, Is It Worth It?

I’m noticing that a lot of women, both young and old, are dating just to say they have someone in their life. It makes me wonder if it’s really worth it? Generally, they’re excited to talk to their friends about him, but it usually turns into a venting session. He’s doing this, he’s doing that, he’s not doing this, he’s not doing that, etc. More than likely, she wants to be in it for the long haul, and will try to “mold” him into THE ONE. Why? Is dating for convenience really worth all of the work?

Saying "Good-bye"

Boyz to Men said it best, "It's so hard to say good-bye". It's not often that divorce actually satisfies both parties. In some cases one of those individuals still have deep feelings for their soon to be ex-spouse. Although we did not make it down the isle, I have experienced it. As I stated in the first blog, I don't regret the things that happened, but I can't lie, I sometimes miss my ex and it's been 3 years. I recently found out that he's engaged. I begin to ask myself, have I been waiting on him? Is that why no one else seemed to be good enough? Was I comparing them to him? That wasn't fair, if I was. If that's the case, it's definitely time for me to let go.

Some people remain married for the sake of their children, financial reasons, and (it's sad to say) even because they feel they are too old to "do the dating thing" and meet someone else. But when all is said, do they both want freedom from each other? I have two very close friends enduring this particular situation. They don't know why they've been married for so long, and are initiating a divorce. It's no doubt that she still loves him very much, but it seems that he doesn't treat her the same anymore. She actually has admitted to loosing some of her self-identity while being in this marriage. She too has been dealing with "saying good-bye".

When saying good-bye (divorcing), you're not only diminishing a marriage, but a relationship that you've established with someone whether it was long term or short, and everything else that was considered normal in your life. Both parties' families will have to adjust. So, saying good-bye does not only affect two people, but everyone else as well. It can be hard to say "good-bye".